When Children Say "I Can't Do It"

"Ma, I can't solve this problem"

"Ma'am, my socks can't be found"

"Well, I can't open this snack"

"I can't, I can't, anyway I can't"

Do Parents often hear whining like this from your little one? Yes, whining that they can't do something. If this condition takes place once or twice it may still be reasonable. But, what if this happens continuously? Is your little one really can't do that? Or maybe it's because they "don't want to do it"?

To answer that question, let's step back for a moment and ask ourselves:

"Is the assignment that I gave excessive to such a child?"

"Is this task too difficult for him?"

"Does my child need help in doing this?"

If, Parents can find the closest reason to the question "Why can't children?" when doing something, then Parents can find a solution.

However, some of the things below will help Parents in dealing with situations when the child says "I can't."

Offer Help

Offering help does not mean saving children from the problems they are facing. But rather to assist so that the tasks they will do a little easier.

For example, when children are unable to work on Math problems, ask them to read the questions slowly and then ask if they understand the problem. Then, give a simple analogy to the problem.

Or, when your child is having trouble finding socks in the wardrobe, Parents can provide instructions regarding the location of the socks. For example, "His socks are on the third shelf." And, there are still many ways to help children do something.

Give More Attention

When children say "I can't", they often just don't feel confident doing something and need moral support from parents. So, do not hesitate to give more attention to children by hugging and encouraging them that they can do that.

Be present

The presence of parents when children say that "I can't", will have a positive impact. So, don't forget to always be present when the child feels unable to do something. A little help might ease their work. However, remember do not let you do the task. The presence of parents is only to make children feel more confident and reduce the mind "I can't".

Give Rest Time

Too tired to do something makes children feel "I can not". So, let the child rest for a moment to unwind. Inviting children to go to the yard to breathe fresh air or offer a little snack, will help him get excited again doing tasks that previously could not be done.

Give Appreciation

Giving the child an appreciation of what he is doing will help the child be more eager to do the task later on. Instead, parents focus on the process and not just on the results.

For example, when children are asked to write fine as homework, then the appreciation of their writing. Parents can say, "Wow, your writing is difficult, but it looks neater. Let's try again next time. "

Evaluate the tasks that children do

It may be that the task is done by the child is indeed a little complicated so the child feels "I can't" do it. For this reason, evaluating the work being done by children is important for parents. Parents can assist children so that the tasks they do are lighter.

Play with Children

If the child feels "I can't" do something, then help them with a little play. For example, when a child is unable to spend food after eating a few bribes, Parents can ask him to play or joke for a while until the child forgets and finally finishes the food in front of him.

Invite to Discuss

When the child feels "I can't" do something, then invite him to discuss to solve the problem being faced. For example, when children have difficulty attending math lessons at school, invite children to discuss approximately what can be done so that he understands mathematics. Parents can offer courses in mathematics so that children better understand these subjects in the future. Of course, many other things can be discussed with children.

Things to remember when children feel "I can't" do something do not immediately replace the child doing the work. Take the steps above to help him be more independent.