Afraid to Have a Child?

After marriage, usually, a married couple will crave to have children. But not infrequently they also delay having children because of psychology. In their minds, they will ask if I am ready to become a parent? Am I able to love and protect children? Questions like these will raise doubts in young couples about having children. In fact, by nature, humans will multiply their own offspring. 

In the hearts of both parents, according to Fitrah, they will grow feelings of love for children and will also grow other psychological feelings in the form of fatherhood and motherhood to nurture, love, love, and care for children. If such psychological feelings do not exist, this human species will surely disappear from the surface of the earth, both parents will not be patient to care for their children, will not want to nurture and educate, will not want to pay attention to the problems and interests of their children. So, indeed love and affection for children will grow by itself when parents start from the time of pregnancy, childbirth, and when raising their children. So, for young couples, do not be afraid to immediately have children because of God willing, with the presence of children, life will be more meaningful and happier because love for children is a gift from God Almighty.

Among the noble feelings instilled by God in the hearts of both parents is a feeling of affection for children. This feeling is glory for parents in educating, preparing, and fostering children to achieve the greatest success and success.

Then what about the many occurrences of child abuse by parents? People whose hearts are empty of compassion will be hard and rude. There is no doubt that in these bad traits there will be interaction with children's disorders and will bring children into deviations of ignorance and distress. Therefore, instilling compassion in the heart and being responsible for the education of children is an obligation for parents or educators and those responsible around them. And as humans, we should understand that all deeds will be rewarded in the afterlife.

And it is not surprising that when love has been implanted in the hearts of parents, they will carry out their obligations and protect the rights and responsibilities of their children as obligations that have been assumed by their Lord.

The birth of a daughter is the same as the birth of a son. All of them are gifts and responsibilities for their parents, girls and boys are no different, and we must not or haram to hate girls. When a person reaches a high level of belief and trust in the provisions of good and bad destiny from God, then it will seem small. All the events and calamities that befall him, he will surrender to God Almighty, his soul will feel calm and will be steadfast in facing fate.

What is the view of punishing and leaving a child for educational purposes? When a child lives in the cradle of his parents and is at the age of learning and education, the existence of parents and educators who have a method to improve, straighten the lameness, and educate their children is certainly very expected for the child's development... Educate children with several patterns, namely gentle advice, forbidding, and hitting with gentle punches.

If it is enough with gentle advice, then parents are not allowed to switch to other ways as well as if it is enough to boycott then it is not allowed to switch to another way that is by hitting it. Beating without hurting is only permissible if the two previous methods, advice, and boycott have stopped working. The beating, which is the last way, done so that parents can find ways that can improve themselves and foster children's behavior patterns and delinquency.

That's the concept of educating children. This has indeed caused controversy in the midst of society. However, educating by giving good examples and advice is the main point in education. Rest assured that the child is likened to a white paper that will be filled by the attitudes and nature of the results of education itself.